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Launch Your Adult Life!

At the Starting Line...

Introduction: Mind the gap (12:38)
A bit about your guide (4:06)
PRACTICE: Get a notebook (4:18)
PRACTICE: One year from now (3:18)
This Week: Markers of Movement (9:11)

You Are NOT Alone

The reclusive life (8:46)
Is this a common issue? Some demographics (7:41)
Is this all about leaving home? (NO!) (3:59)
The problem of boredom (6:33)
The driver's seat: Who's in charge - you or your emotions? (9:32)

Speed Bumps on the Highway of Life: What Slows Us Down?

Stop signs: Four kinds of factors (2:23)
Societal factors: Yes, it's getting worse (15:33)
Personal factors that influence the transition (6:10)
Why the guys? (6:15)
What about mental health issues? (10:45)
The $10 million question: How to be miserable (6:16)
Family factors: Glue in the family nest (13:39)
The short-term long-term problem (6:39)

Why Change?

Why abandon comfort? (7:26)
The wall (and the countdown timer) (5:02)
The trap of needing to feel ready (4:18)
The too-distant future: Your vision may be slowing you down (14:05)
If it's not getting better, it's getting worse (5:35)

Thoughts Can Hold You Back

An introduction to cognitive work (5:58)
I need confidence in order to take action (6:05)
I need to find my passion (5:42)
Failure is lethal (4:39)
I need to decide on my path before I can walk it (4:24)
I didn't ask to be born (7:17)

Charting Your Course: Goal Setting

Mostly the same, but a little better (5:10)
Final destination: Ultimate goals (8:03)
PRACTICE: Turning problems into goals (3:02)
Destination versus path (2:28)
The eight goal-setting realms in your life (10:54)
You don't need a vision to get on the road (4:04)
Immediate goals: This week's mission (11:17)
Plans with power: SMART goals (11:20)
PRACTICE: Goal check-in (11:44)

Creating and Maintaining Change

Stepping stones: DON'T focus on your eventual goal (7:58)
Doing without passion: Adaptive versus intrinsic motivation (7:18)
Skills versus habits: Which is more important? (6:51)
Trivial pursuit: The rule of minimal change (3:29)
Momentum: Three ways to maintain change (9:53)

Lifestyle: 80% of Mental Health

How you live is how you feel: The importance of lifestyle factors (2:51)
Physical activity, mood, and energy level (8:02)
You feel what you eat: Diet (8:53)
Sleep: The problem (6:58)
Sleep: The recommendations (15:43)
The glass teat: Screen time (7:05)
Screen time: 10 tips (17:47)

The Home Front: Relationships With Family

Iron John and the nature of parenting (0:21)
The problem of parental ambivalence (9:27)
Retiring the servants (6:55)
Ramping down conflict at home (8:13)

Getting Fear OUT of the Driver's Seat

The model of fear (7:34)
Your three zones of comfort (15:09)
Overcoming fears through exposure (11:23)
Exposure: Practicalities Step By Step (8:00)
Hypothesis testing with behavioural experiments (16:54)
EXAMPLE: Anxiety about using transit (9:44)
EXAMPLE: Anxiety about educational settings (6:13)
EXAMPLE: Anxiety about failure and embarrassment (16:02)

The Skill Set

Skills versus talents (10:17)
INVENTORY: The skills of adult life (7:38)
Example: Learning to drive (7:59)

Vocation and avocation

The outward push: Finding a role in the world (7:28)
Volunteering as a path forward (9:43)
Entry level jobs: Why bother? (6:43)
The resume: Tedious but necessary (10:12)
How to apply for work (8:12)
The cover story: Handling the employment gap (7:14)
The job interview (8:17)

Personal Finances

The leash of parental cash (6:14)
The debt trap (8:53)
Financial self-management: Ten tips (7:24)

Social Life

The need for social contact (6:37)
Social media: The Aspartame of interaction (6:58)
EXERCISE: Your social census (9:57)
Building your network: Thirteen strategies (21:38)
Shallowness is good: Functional friends (7:24)
What about romance? Or maybe sex? (14:47)

Welcome to a Bigger World

Conclusion: The project of adulthood (6:14)

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